Secret of Attraction

Tag: attraction

  • Attraction

    One thing we need to look at is the concept of attraction. You see, attraction will determine whether or not you get a date. The good news, though, is that women are more attracted to personality than they are looks. While looks do play a role, if you have the right personality traits, women will still be attracted to you even if you aren’t a Brad Pitt lookalike.

    So, if your excuse until now has been that you aren’t rich, famous or Brad, then you need to realize that it’s only an excuse. While women may be attracted to the rich and famous, personality still wins out and if you have the confidence and humor that women love, then you will win every time, irrespective of the size of your bank account.

    The even better news is that these are all things that can be learned, meaning that you can actually make yourself more attractive to women by cultivating the type of personality they would be attracted to.

    If you are sputtering and mumbling that you shouldn’t have to change for a woman to be attracted to you and that she should like you for who you are, then wake up and take a whiff of reality because everyone has to change. We are all changing throughout our lives and we have two choices: we either let life mold us or we channel the change to benefit us.

    However, just remember that attraction isn’t a choice. It’s not like a woman will see a guy and size him up, then tick of his qualities and suddenly decide “I choose to be attracted to him because he is stable, dependent and has a good job.” It simply doesn’t work that way because if it did then you probably wouldn’t need to read this book.

    Attraction is quite biological, which means that if she isn’t attracted to you after first date, then there is little you can do about it because you will never be anything more than a friend to her. No matter how many gifts you buy her or how many restaurants you take her to, she is not going to suddenly develop an attraction for you. You’re better off simply moving on.

  • Becoming the Girl Men Adore

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    If you asked most women today what type of girl men adore and couldn’t live without they would answer that she would have to be an Angelina Jolie lookalike or at the very least be blond, blue-eyed and have killer legs. While this type of woman would definitely attract a lot of attention, she actually isn’t the type of woman that men adore.

    Now girls, that’s really good news for most of us!

    You see, while men are visual creatures and that first attraction is sparked from looks, you would be surprised to find out how much more men actually want from women.

    For example, a team of sociologists conducted a study, trying to understand if there was a common denominator that men found attractive in women; that one thing that would get any guy to want to go over and talk to a girl. You would never guess what the result was. No, it wasn’t her breasts, her legs or her bum. In fact, it wasn’t any body part below her chin and it wasn’t her features, either.

    It was her smile. The majority of men stated that they found nothing as attractive as a woman’s smile.

    The point of this revelation is that you have to put your preconceived notions and the rules society has beaten into you all to one side. You need to understand that fundamentally, men and women are different and it’s alright to be a woman. There’s nothing wrong with giving up control to your partner once in a while, especially since it will make you feel better as well.

    Society may have placed men and women on equal footing in the workplace and perhaps some other areas of our lives. While it is absolutely true that a woman can do almost anything a man can do and vice-versa, it is also true that we have fundamental differences that we are hardwired with. The problem is that when we try to overlook those differences and pretend they don’t exist, as women, we end up shutting ourselves away from the world in an attempt to be more like the men we feel a need to compete with.

    Generally, this is most prevalent in the workplace, but, unfortunately a lot of women carry this behavior over into their personal lives and they end up hurting themselves as well as their partners.

    Women are often afraid to be women, to appear feminine or vulnerable because they equate it with being weak. However, quite the opposite is true, because a woman who is in tune with herself and shows her vulnerability wields much more power over a man than if she were to constantly act tough.

    We will be exploring many of the differences between men and women in this book and how it is that those differences give us more strength than any rules society may seek to impose upon us. And once you allow your inner woman to shine through, then you will become the girl that all men adore and can’t live without.

  • Physical Appearances

    While this might be considered a little shallow, unfortunately, there is nothing we can do about the fact that men are visual creatures. This doesn’t mean that you have to stop by the plastic surgeon in the morning to remodel yourself into a Victoria’s Secret runway model. Far from it.

    However, there are certain things that make women much more attractive to men. For example, men absolutely adore long hair on women. It is a sign of femininity and the only thing they love more than long hair, is to see that long hair pulled up in a pony tail. The reason for this is because it has a slight sexual connotation by showing off the graceful curves of your neck.

    Also, if you adopt a more feminine style by wearing dresses and skirts more often, you will find that more men are attracted to you. This is simply because women tend to appear softer and more feminine in dresses and men are attracted to that like bees to honey.

    Last but definitely not least, high heels. Yes, heels do something amazing for your posture and make men fall head over their proverbial heels. One reason is because you tend to move slower and more gracefully when you are wearing high heels. It’s virtually impossible to walk at breakneck speed or be less than graceful in high heels. Not if you don’t want to break your neck that is.

    Also, you know you feel absolutely amazing inside when you are wearing heels. It gives you a new confidence because you feel taller and more attractive. You basically feel on top of the world. And this confidence shines through and men pick up on it. There’s nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who is comfortable with herself and is confident.

  • What Do Men Really Want

    First and foremost, you need to understand that men like things simple. They don’t overanalyze every phrase you say looking for a hidden meaning nor do they speak in riddles. In fact, you can be certain that in most cases, when a man says something that’s exactly what he means in that moment.

    What does this mean? It means that men adore women who tell them straight what they feel and don’t feel. So, for example, rather than hinting that you are too tired to go out that evening or trying to hint at the fact that you are upset he isn’t spending enough time with you, try telling him. Yes, you run the risk of being rejected but at the same time you are showing him what you want and there’s nothing men love more than not having to worry about making a mistake and upsetting you.

    Of course, delivery is important as well and a man will respond much better if your delivery is soft and feminine rather than shouting your head off at him. By being soft and feminine you completely disarm him because men want to make their women happy. On the other hand, if you start yelling, all you are doing is basically competing with him and he will start treating you like one of the guys because guys compete against each other. So, he will either do the “guy thing” and withdraw inside himself or simply try to compete with you.

    You see, men marry women who make them feel good and because they have such trouble accessing their own emotions, they love being with a woman who makes them feel good. Now, if he is constantly walking around on eggshells because he doesn’t know how to please you, the last thing he will feel is good.

    Men Want to Feel Needed

    Because of the way our society is structured today, many women are embarrassed to admit, even to themselves, that they want to feel cherished and that they need a man. It’s almost a sacrilege to admit it, even though they feel empty without a partner.

    You will find that there are many women, and you may be one of them, who have a great career and date all the time but cannot maintain a relationship. And they have no idea why. It is exactly because of the fact that they have convinced themselves that they don’t need a man and that is what they project.

    Unfortunately, if a man doesn’t feel that a woman needs him he will think there is nothing he can do for her that she can’t do on her own. He won’t be able to play the knight in shining armor for his woman and there is nothing that will get a man to run away faster than the feeling that he isn’t needed.

    While independence is a great thing in some areas of your life, it is usually the biggest killer of intimacy. After all, would you want to be with someone who says they don’t need you? No one is saying you need to use him as an emotional crutch or relinquish all control to him, but you do need to understand that the idea of equality is highly over rated in relationships.

    In fact, if you were both on equal footing then you would be just like one of his mates and very few women want to be treated like one of the guys. After all, guys never open up to each other, they are constantly competing on some level or other and they certainly don’t hug and kiss each other. Is that what you want?