Well, you don’t have to change if you don’t want to. No one is forcing you to do it. But you will have to think about whether it’s worth the effort if you want to be able to date any girl, no matter how attractive she is. The thing is that we don’t live in a perfect world and even if you want her to like you for who you are, no matter how you look then you are going to have a big problem.
Attractive women are approached by so many men that they need to use the outer appearance of a man to quickly decide whether or not he is worth her time. They judge the type of person you are based on the image you present and they will be hard pressed to look beyond an overweight and ungroomed appearance as well as a total lack of culture.
It’s also a matter of self-respect. Do you have so little respect for yourself that you feel you aren’t worth improving? Read a few books, get on the internet and learn a little about what’s going on in the world, have a shower every day, get your hair trimmed, go to the gym and suddenly you will find that your confidence will skyrocket as well.
Fear of Failure
One of the biggest problems men have is that they fail to take action because of a fear of failure. We are simply paralyzed by the fear of rejection so much that we would rather not take any action at all. The strange thing is that many men will walk into a high risk situation without a second thought, such as a fight, whereas we are paralyzed by the thought of talking to an attractive woman.
Think about it. In a fight you are definitely going to experience some physical pain yet we are more afraid of approaching an attractive woman than we are of getting into a fight, even though the worst that can happen is that she will say no. But what if you succeed? The payoff, in this case, is absolutely huge by comparison.
If you want to be able to date any girl, no matter how attractive she is, then you need to cultivate the personality traits that she finds attractive. Even though some guys are born with these traits, they can be learned, and since women are more attracted to a man’s personality and how he makes her feel than his looks, there is really no obstacle in your path other than yourself.
If you learn to eliminate your limiting beliefs, your confidence will grow, which will make you much more attractive to women. A woman will go out with an average-looking guy that has a mediocre financial solution in a heartbeat over a rich, great looking guy if the former makes her feel wonderful while the latter acts like a jerk.
Remember, the only thing standing between you and success with women is you. Learn to be more attractive to women and you will find that nothing can stand in your way.