The problem with most men is that when they are around attractive women they feel the need to gain their approval by being overly nice, courteous and so on. The problem is that this puts her in the position to lead and if she is leading she will never feel that spark of attraction for you. As mentioned previously, women are attracted to strong and confident men and a strong guy will never allow a woman to lead.
Funnily enough, the best way to spark that fire of attraction is not to need her approval and to show her as much. The trick is to make her work for your attention rather than the other way around. This will unbalance her cool and aloof approach to men simply because you are doing something so unexpected and out of the ordinary she will be hard pressed not to at least be curious about you.
The more you appear like you don’t need her approval, the more confident you will appear and confidence is very attractive to both women and men. So, the more confident you can act in every situation, the more attractive you will be.
However, remember that there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. While arrogance may be appealing to a certain degree, too much of it will make you look like a total jerk.
Appearance
Yes, women are more attracted to personality rather than looks, but this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t make yourself as presentable as possible. This is because women make a lot of decisions based on very small details. For example, if you are too casually dressed then she will think you are simply too lazy to look after yourself and therefore will probably have an unkempt home and you would probably present too much work for her to be bother with.
On the other end of the spectrum, if you overdo your appearance and look too put together, she will automatically think that you probably spend more time in front of the mirror than she does and she doesn’t want to date someone who is more interested in himself than in her.
Yes, getting the right balance is a little tricky but as long as you look after yourself and that includes losing the beer belly, you will find that more women will be attracted to you. All you have to do is pick up a magazine and see what’s in fashion, spend a few dollars on some new clothes and away you go.
One thing is for sure, though. If you go around wearing a pair of jeans that have seen better days and you look nine months pregnant, you can be certain that attractive women will not give you a second glance.
You see, it simply comes down to the fact that women take time to make themselves more attractive to men, and it does take a lot of time and work, so they expect the same consideration in return, which is natural. So, if you really want to be able to date any girl then you need to get your act together, forget the six pack every night and hit the gym. And don’t start whining that you can never look like the muscle bound studs that are on the cover of romance novels. No one expects you to, but you can get yourself in shape which will not only help you find more success with women but you’ll also be healthier which means you’ll have more years to enjoy life.